Knowing that I am going to have sex before I go to sleep has a wonderful effect on my psyche. I'm not sure how to explain it... it just somehow makes me feel truly happy.
There is no power struggle, no copping out because we're tired... Last night it was almost midnight before all of our kids were finally asleep... often we would have given in to sleep and missed out on a sweet love making session.
The sex was slow and dreamy.. we started off simply connecting and sending energy through each of our bodies... as our passion grew, we merged into soft and gentle sex.. delicious... It's almost 10pm tonight, I suppose we better get down to business:-) From my heart to yours, Joy
Showing posts with label lovemaking. Show all posts
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Tuesday, February 16, 2010
Monday, January 11, 2010
I love sex
That's the message for today! I LOVE SEX! As a Sex educator and an intimacy coach, I hear so many couples expressing dissatisfaction with sex life... not us... after more than a decade of sex, it seems that our love life only gets better with age:-)
We made such sweet love last night, it almost made me cry tears of joy. The feeling of your man's hands expertly caressing your body, pushing your buttons, and bringing you to that ecstatic state is simply divine. I suppose I will go into more detail as the challenge continues and I become increasingly comfortable with blogging, so stay tuned:-)
We made such sweet love last night, it almost made me cry tears of joy. The feeling of your man's hands expertly caressing your body, pushing your buttons, and bringing you to that ecstatic state is simply divine. I suppose I will go into more detail as the challenge continues and I become increasingly comfortable with blogging, so stay tuned:-)
Monday, January 4, 2010
Double Take
Day 3 was a wonderful day for my husband and I. For some reason, we were overly affectionate with one another. We enjoyed some goat's cheese, crackers, olives, and red wine for lunch, had a wonderful family dinner and spent the rest of the evening cuddling and chatting.
Everyone is back to school, so the kids were in bed earlier than usual. We laid in bed chatting as and then he made his move:-) This challenge makes me think about things on a deeper level. The fine details of our sexual relationship stand out more in my mind.
What I have noticed most is that the more sex we have, the more sex we desire:-) It doesn't seem possible for us to lose interest. The first thing he did last night during our romantic encounter was give me a breast massage... take note gents... a breast massage relieves stress, helps improve the mood, and allows most women to open up more sexually.
Last night our position was the magice bullet...fyi.. enjoy the rest of your day!
Everyone is back to school, so the kids were in bed earlier than usual. We laid in bed chatting as and then he made his move:-) This challenge makes me think about things on a deeper level. The fine details of our sexual relationship stand out more in my mind.
What I have noticed most is that the more sex we have, the more sex we desire:-) It doesn't seem possible for us to lose interest. The first thing he did last night during our romantic encounter was give me a breast massage... take note gents... a breast massage relieves stress, helps improve the mood, and allows most women to open up more sexually.
Last night our position was the magice bullet...fyi.. enjoy the rest of your day!
Sunday, January 3, 2010
Challenge goes missionary
Our second day of the challenge (Jan 2nd). We laid in bed chatting long after the kids had shut their eyes and finally gone to sleep. There is a comfort between us that I thoroughly appreciate and enjoy. I am finding the effects of this challenge interesting, but I'll talk about that another day.
As it often does, our lovemaking began with gentle kissing that merged into the mingling of our bodies. I felt his hands on my breasts at first, searching for a path beneath the light cotton of my tank top. Then a hand between my legs, which caused a flood of sensations to pass through my body.
Then, in one swift move, I pulled him on top of me into missionary. Funny, I never thought about it much before, but we rarely have missionary style sex. He moved on top of me with great expertise, finding just the right angle to increase my pleasure. we kissed passionately as we made love.
At some point we switched into 2 or 3 more positions, but the rest is truly a blur of wonder and passion. The specific details melting from my mind. Once again, we lay in orgasmic bliss, then began our lovemaking over again. This time we merged into the mantrap:-) Before we were done, I'd had 3 orgasms and he'd had two...always one up:-) Enjoy your day!
As it often does, our lovemaking began with gentle kissing that merged into the mingling of our bodies. I felt his hands on my breasts at first, searching for a path beneath the light cotton of my tank top. Then a hand between my legs, which caused a flood of sensations to pass through my body.
Then, in one swift move, I pulled him on top of me into missionary. Funny, I never thought about it much before, but we rarely have missionary style sex. He moved on top of me with great expertise, finding just the right angle to increase my pleasure. we kissed passionately as we made love.
At some point we switched into 2 or 3 more positions, but the rest is truly a blur of wonder and passion. The specific details melting from my mind. Once again, we lay in orgasmic bliss, then began our lovemaking over again. This time we merged into the mantrap:-) Before we were done, I'd had 3 orgasms and he'd had two...always one up:-) Enjoy your day!
Friday, January 1, 2010
Tested on the first day!
Last night at 12am on Jan 1st was the official start for our challenge. We had planned on renting a hotel room and going out together on New Year's eve, but life is all about change of course. I came home with a sore throat and some major pms cramps... I crawled into bed with a good book and promptly fell asleep long before midnight. I know, I know, not entertaining...but that's life.
This morning I woke and still didn't feel much better, so I thought there's no time like the present... Thank you for choosing the sexy spoon as our first position! That is a nice position when you're not feeling your best. Thank goodness we didn't have to do some intense acrobatic moves with me in such rough shape.
We have done the sexy spoon plenty of times, but never started with it, we've always maneuvered into it gradually. Now I know why... I am not built to start off in that position... we rapidly realized it was going to be uncomfortable, so we started off in sexy scissors, and melted into sexy spoon when it felt right.
It is a wonderful position. Ladies, if you position your upper body just right (experiment until you find the right angle for you) you will be able to line things up so that you receive some wonderful g-spot stimulation. For me, I pull my upper body forward so that we are in sort of a doggy style sexy spoon combo. This allows my lover to pleasure my g-spot with his wand of light. If you're so inclined, he can also reach his hands between your legs and pleasure your clitoris as well... which makes for a wonderful combination.
As we relaxed into wave after wave of orgasmic bliss, we lay together in silent union, sharing heart energy, sweet kisses, and loving embraces. After a few moments, I rose from the bed to take a post-sex pee and promptly walked into our space heater! Nice end to a wonderful love making session. Like I always say, I am elegant until I'm not.
Happy New Year's everyone... I will keep you updated daily:-)
This morning I woke and still didn't feel much better, so I thought there's no time like the present... Thank you for choosing the sexy spoon as our first position! That is a nice position when you're not feeling your best. Thank goodness we didn't have to do some intense acrobatic moves with me in such rough shape.
We have done the sexy spoon plenty of times, but never started with it, we've always maneuvered into it gradually. Now I know why... I am not built to start off in that position... we rapidly realized it was going to be uncomfortable, so we started off in sexy scissors, and melted into sexy spoon when it felt right.
It is a wonderful position. Ladies, if you position your upper body just right (experiment until you find the right angle for you) you will be able to line things up so that you receive some wonderful g-spot stimulation. For me, I pull my upper body forward so that we are in sort of a doggy style sexy spoon combo. This allows my lover to pleasure my g-spot with his wand of light. If you're so inclined, he can also reach his hands between your legs and pleasure your clitoris as well... which makes for a wonderful combination.
As we relaxed into wave after wave of orgasmic bliss, we lay together in silent union, sharing heart energy, sweet kisses, and loving embraces. After a few moments, I rose from the bed to take a post-sex pee and promptly walked into our space heater! Nice end to a wonderful love making session. Like I always say, I am elegant until I'm not.
Happy New Year's everyone... I will keep you updated daily:-)
Thursday, December 24, 2009
Parenting and Sex Don't Mix
So, my husband and I decided that, considering we live in a small rustic cabin, we should treat ourselves to a night on the town. Seemed like a grand idea... out to Moxie's for a couple glasses of wine, some bruschetta, and a wonderful meal. Just as I brought my wine glass to my lips to take my first sip.... BRING... cell phone... It's our youngest daughter on the phone and she wants me to tell her brother to be nice... I manage to work out the conflict. I can hear my mother supporting in the background and my oldest daughter is doing her best to remain calm in the face of the newest challenge.
We finish our dinner in peace, then decide to go for a romantic stroll... BRING... another conflict... this one is pretty easy to sort out.. After our walk, we drive to the hotel with thoughts of erotic moments dancing through our heads. We call my mom, who assures us that the kids are fine. We say our good nights and begin our wild night of passion. Well, sort of.. first we watch the terrible, yet somehow funny Cougar Town, I take a bath to relax, and then...
BRING... just as my husband begins to kiss me. It's our 5 year old again, who wants us to come home. We tell her there are no ferries, so we can't, which makes her cry. I get a little emotional, but my husband reminds me that this is our second night away from our children in over 13 years...This helps me overcome my guilt for taking time alone with my husband. We begin kissing, which turns into full on foreplay, and then... just as his tongue begins to gently and expertly explore me BRING... oh my gosh, is this a conspiracy?...
The moment fades as I once again console my youngest daughter and then... without missing a beat, we're back at it... Not quite an hour into our romantic rendevous, I am heading towards that enlightened moment where thoughts are fleeting, the energy in my body is reacting to the sensations, I am feeling like I might have the best climax of my life BRING... I look at the clock 12:04 am ... My patience is dwindling, but I am a mother first after all... It is my 11 year old boy... He had a bad dream...My husband and I stay connected throughout the conversation trying to maintain our current level of energy... I manage to calm my oldest boy down.
Finally, uninterrupted, we weave our energy together, building into a frenzy of passion and melt into a state of pure bliss as we climax as one...
The bottom line... making love when you have four kids (or 1 or 2, or 3) takes a bit of planning and some serious commitment.. but it's worth it..
May you all have a lovely Christmas Eve and a Merry Christmas..
We finish our dinner in peace, then decide to go for a romantic stroll... BRING... another conflict... this one is pretty easy to sort out.. After our walk, we drive to the hotel with thoughts of erotic moments dancing through our heads. We call my mom, who assures us that the kids are fine. We say our good nights and begin our wild night of passion. Well, sort of.. first we watch the terrible, yet somehow funny Cougar Town, I take a bath to relax, and then...
BRING... just as my husband begins to kiss me. It's our 5 year old again, who wants us to come home. We tell her there are no ferries, so we can't, which makes her cry. I get a little emotional, but my husband reminds me that this is our second night away from our children in over 13 years...This helps me overcome my guilt for taking time alone with my husband. We begin kissing, which turns into full on foreplay, and then... just as his tongue begins to gently and expertly explore me BRING... oh my gosh, is this a conspiracy?...
The moment fades as I once again console my youngest daughter and then... without missing a beat, we're back at it... Not quite an hour into our romantic rendevous, I am heading towards that enlightened moment where thoughts are fleeting, the energy in my body is reacting to the sensations, I am feeling like I might have the best climax of my life BRING... I look at the clock 12:04 am ... My patience is dwindling, but I am a mother first after all... It is my 11 year old boy... He had a bad dream...My husband and I stay connected throughout the conversation trying to maintain our current level of energy... I manage to calm my oldest boy down.
Finally, uninterrupted, we weave our energy together, building into a frenzy of passion and melt into a state of pure bliss as we climax as one...
The bottom line... making love when you have four kids (or 1 or 2, or 3) takes a bit of planning and some serious commitment.. but it's worth it..
May you all have a lovely Christmas Eve and a Merry Christmas..
Tuesday, December 22, 2009
Sex, Love, and Rock and Roll
This is what's on my mind today... sex, love, and music... Thses are the things that feed my soul... Sex is more than penetration to me.. it is about conenction, letting go, and freeing yourself from ego. Love is about connection. Connection for me flows like water towards my husband, children, family, and friends...
Music...Years ago our good friends gave us this wonderful little wall hanging.. it has only five little words on it "Music makes people more beautiful". Music moves me... allows me to feel beyond myself and understand the lives of others... What does this have to do with the 365 day sex challenge? This challenge is about loving, feeling and being one with myself and my life partner... may we lose ourselves in connection, lust, love, and allow music to moves us...may you also fimd your bliss...
Music...Years ago our good friends gave us this wonderful little wall hanging.. it has only five little words on it "Music makes people more beautiful". Music moves me... allows me to feel beyond myself and understand the lives of others... What does this have to do with the 365 day sex challenge? This challenge is about loving, feeling and being one with myself and my life partner... may we lose ourselves in connection, lust, love, and allow music to moves us...may you also fimd your bliss...
Monday, December 21, 2009
Outer Influences
Just got back from listening to Valdy sing Christmas carols... kids running around, the air filled with laughter, and oh yes, the fire bin astrologer.. There's a saying around here.... "only on Salt Spring"... yes, only on Salt Spring can you walk down to the warf, park your but by a burn barrel and have your astrology chart read for you by the light of the moon while listening to Valdy and friends...
My hubby and I stole a few sweet kisses and some loving glances at each other from across the fire as the wandering astrologer confirms that our charts, signs, planets, and all universal forces support that we are a match. Oh, by the way, my husband's name is Mountain and yes, his mother gave him that name at birth. He is truly my Mountain... I noticed that we have some votes on the first sex position.. thank you for your votes! Enjoy the rest of your evening... Joy (Joy is just my nickname...fyi).
My hubby and I stole a few sweet kisses and some loving glances at each other from across the fire as the wandering astrologer confirms that our charts, signs, planets, and all universal forces support that we are a match. Oh, by the way, my husband's name is Mountain and yes, his mother gave him that name at birth. He is truly my Mountain... I noticed that we have some votes on the first sex position.. thank you for your votes! Enjoy the rest of your evening... Joy (Joy is just my nickname...fyi).
Sunday, December 20, 2009
Committed
Okay, so the weight of our decision has hit, but we are committed.. I read about another woman who called the 365 day sex challenge a logistical nightmare... different thoughts are running through my mind... the idea of sex every day during my moon cycle, not spending one night away from my husand for the next year, etc.
My husband is walking around in a state of ignorant bliss... totally unaware of some of the challenges we may face...(yes, I asked him if it would piss him off if I said that... he responded with ... "that remains to be seen, but I don't plan on censoring you")... I decided I should tell my wonderful and always accepting sister about the challenge before she hears about it elsewhere... she was supportive..maybe a tad skeptical, but what was important to me... she understands..truly
Have a wonderful evening... Joy
My husband is walking around in a state of ignorant bliss... totally unaware of some of the challenges we may face...(yes, I asked him if it would piss him off if I said that... he responded with ... "that remains to be seen, but I don't plan on censoring you")... I decided I should tell my wonderful and always accepting sister about the challenge before she hears about it elsewhere... she was supportive..maybe a tad skeptical, but what was important to me... she understands..truly
Have a wonderful evening... Joy
Saturday, December 19, 2009
365 day sex challenge
My husband and I have been together for over a decade... to us, it seems like we've never not been together. We are one of those couples who found each other one fateful afternoon and have been inseparable since. We have four beautiful children and a wonderful life together... We have explored Tantric sex for many years and have been looking for new and exciting positions and activities to add to our lovemaking...
This is our challenge to you... We are committing to 365 days of sex... We will have sex once per day and participate in one additional sexual activity... oral sex, sex toy sex, foreplay,. orgasmic mediation, etc. each and everyday for the next 365 days... Regardless of illness, family issues, or any other potential inconveniences.
Our first task... to come up with this years program of positions and additional sexual adventures ... Your task: we want to hear your thoughts, suggested positions, and additional sex adventure ideas... We will choose from your suggestions and create our yearly program...try one sexual position per day and one sexual adventure outside of penetrative sex per day and then blog about our experiences...
This is our challenge to you... We are committing to 365 days of sex... We will have sex once per day and participate in one additional sexual activity... oral sex, sex toy sex, foreplay,. orgasmic mediation, etc. each and everyday for the next 365 days... Regardless of illness, family issues, or any other potential inconveniences.
Our first task... to come up with this years program of positions and additional sexual adventures ... Your task: we want to hear your thoughts, suggested positions, and additional sex adventure ideas... We will choose from your suggestions and create our yearly program...try one sexual position per day and one sexual adventure outside of penetrative sex per day and then blog about our experiences...
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