Another day in paradise

Knowing that I am going to have sex before I go to sleep has a wonderful effect on my psyche. I'm not sure how to explain it... it just somehow makes me feel truly happy.

There is no power struggle, no copping out because we're tired... Last night it was almost midnight before all of our kids were finally asleep... often we would have given in to sleep and missed out on a sweet love making session.

The sex was slow and dreamy.. we started off simply connecting and sending energy through each of our bodies... as our passion grew, we merged into soft and gentle sex.. delicious... It's almost 10pm tonight, I suppose we better get down to business:-) From my heart to yours, Joy

sex challenge challenge

Okay folks, this is the situation... we currently live on a tiny little isolated island in a small one room cabin with four kids. I am commuting 5 hours a day to and from work, my husband is working nearly full time hours, and our kids are night hawks...

The bottom line is that we have been managing to sneak in some quick nooky nearly daily, but there are many challenges we currently face, as mentioned above. In addition, my internet connection has been down for days.

On Feb 15th, we are moving to the city to pursue our dreams. We will have a huge bed, a master bathroom with a full bath and tonnes of mirrors, not to mention, I will be home more. So, I propose that we continue with our intimacy as a test run, but re-start our challenge officially without interruption (from the internet crashing, kids everywhere, and me traveling).

So, we will officially re-start the 365 day sex challenge on February 15th, 2010... What I have learned so far... even those of us who can't get enough sex face challenges when attempting to have sex daily... I will continue to update...

Challenge with the challenge:-)

Sorry for the long delay folks. I was struggling with the openness of a blog... it feels a tad voyeuristic, which is not in my nature. However, a wonderful lady made some extremely valid points about the value of making our challenge public... and so, the challenge remains in the public eye:-)

The way I communicate and how I express myself may shift until I find a routine that works for me, but I promise to keep blogging. So, now for the update...

We have missed 3 days so far. The one time of the month I am not usually up for a romp is the first day of my cycle. That held true this month... I couldn't contemplate having sex while I was bleeding like a stuck pig... I know, I know, I need to embrace my cycle... while I try, I just don't seem to be there...

I imagined having sex in our bed, getting up and finding that my bed looked like someone had clubbed a baby seal... I know, what an image... you see what I was dealing with? What was interesting is that, rapidly, one day turned into 3 days...So, here we are, back on track and we have 3 days to make up... I will keep you posted. It is now my goal to blog each day of the challenge...

Challenge goes missionary

Our second day of the challenge (Jan 2nd). We laid in bed chatting long after the kids had shut their eyes and finally gone to sleep. There is a comfort between us that I thoroughly appreciate and enjoy. I am finding the effects of this challenge interesting, but I'll talk about that another day.

As it often does, our lovemaking began with gentle kissing that merged into the mingling of our bodies. I felt his hands on my breasts at first, searching for a path beneath the light cotton of my tank top. Then a hand between my legs, which caused a flood of sensations to pass through my body.

Then, in one swift move, I pulled him on top of me into missionary. Funny, I never thought about it much before, but we rarely have missionary style sex. He moved on top of me with great expertise, finding just the right angle to increase my pleasure. we kissed passionately as we made love.

At some point we switched into 2 or 3 more positions, but the rest is truly a blur of wonder and passion. The specific details melting from my mind. Once again, we lay in orgasmic bliss, then began our lovemaking over again. This time we merged into the mantrap:-) Before we were done, I'd had 3 orgasms and he'd had two...always one up:-) Enjoy your day!

Parenting and Sex Don't Mix

So, my husband and I decided that, considering we live in a small rustic cabin, we should treat ourselves to a night on the town. Seemed like a grand idea... out to Moxie's for a couple glasses of wine, some bruschetta, and a wonderful meal. Just as I brought my wine glass to my lips to take my first sip.... BRING... cell phone... It's our youngest daughter on the phone and she wants me to tell her brother to be nice... I manage to work out the conflict. I can hear my mother supporting in the background and my oldest daughter is doing her best to remain calm in the face of the newest challenge.

We finish our dinner in peace, then decide to go for a romantic stroll... BRING... another conflict... this one is pretty easy to sort out.. After our walk, we drive to the hotel with thoughts of erotic moments dancing through our heads. We call my mom, who assures us that the kids are fine. We say our good nights and begin our wild night of passion. Well, sort of.. first we watch the terrible, yet somehow funny Cougar Town, I take a bath to relax, and then...

BRING... just as my husband begins to kiss me. It's our 5 year old again, who wants us to come home. We tell her there are no ferries, so we can't, which makes her cry. I get a little emotional, but my husband reminds me that this is our second night away from our children in over 13 years...This helps me overcome my guilt for taking time alone with my husband. We begin kissing, which turns into full on foreplay, and then... just as his tongue begins to gently and expertly explore me BRING... oh my gosh, is this a conspiracy?...

The moment fades as I once again console my youngest daughter and then... without missing a beat, we're back at it... Not quite an hour into our romantic rendevous, I am heading towards that enlightened moment where thoughts are fleeting, the energy in my body is reacting to the sensations, I am feeling like I might have the best climax of my life BRING... I look at the clock 12:04 am ... My patience is dwindling, but I am a mother first after all... It is my 11 year old boy... He had a bad dream...My husband and I stay connected throughout the conversation trying to maintain our current level of energy... I manage to calm my oldest boy down.

Finally, uninterrupted, we weave our energy together, building into a frenzy of passion and melt into a state of pure bliss as we climax as one...

The bottom line... making love when you have four kids (or 1 or 2, or 3) takes a bit of planning and some serious commitment.. but it's worth it..

May you all have a lovely Christmas Eve and a Merry Christmas..

Committed

Okay, so the weight of our decision has hit, but we are committed.. I read about another woman who called the 365 day sex challenge a logistical nightmare... different thoughts are running through my mind... the idea of sex every day during my moon cycle, not spending one night away from my husand for the next year, etc.

My husband is walking around in a state of ignorant bliss... totally unaware of some of the challenges we may face...(yes, I asked him if it would piss him off if I said that... he responded with ... "that remains to be seen, but I don't plan on censoring you")... I decided I should tell my wonderful and always accepting sister about the challenge before she hears about it elsewhere... she was supportive..maybe a tad skeptical, but what was important to me... she understands..truly

Have a wonderful evening... Joy

Start Date January 1st, 2010

Okay, we have chosen our start date... January 1st, 2010.. We have our first position suggestion... Backdoor Doggy Style will be our 365 position... hmmm...

365 day sex challenge

My husband and I have been together for over a decade... to us, it seems like we've never not been together. We are one of those couples who found each other one fateful afternoon and have been inseparable since. We have four beautiful children and a wonderful life together... We have explored Tantric sex for many years and have been looking for new and exciting positions and activities to add to our lovemaking...

This is our challenge to you... We are committing to 365 days of sex... We will have sex once per day and participate in one additional sexual activity... oral sex, sex toy sex, foreplay,. orgasmic mediation, etc. each and everyday for the next 365 days... Regardless of illness, family issues, or any other potential inconveniences.

Our first task... to come up with this years program of positions and additional sexual adventures ... Your task: we want to hear your thoughts, suggested positions, and additional sex adventure ideas... We will choose from your suggestions and create our yearly program...try one sexual position per day and one sexual adventure outside of penetrative sex per day and then blog about our experiences...